In the early 2000s, geek was a term used proudly by highly skilled computer users. The Dot Com era had arrived and people started to make millions on the internet. That’s where a generation gap developed. People started using computers for the whole day, using internet for everything from studying to making money.

Little did they know about the hazards of this lifestyle. There are things I have learnt the hard way and I believe everyone should know what I have experienced. I have always read about these hazards but didn’t take them seriously until they effected me.

Loss Of Attention Span

When was the last time you went to library for a detailed analysis of something you have discovered? Today, we search for everything on the internet. We read a few lines from here, then a paragraph from there and develop a mind map. We write a detailed email to someone while switching back to Facebook, Twitter, our phone or something else in-between. I am afraid we are losing our concentration span. There’s nothing we do that doesn’t have distractions in between. When was the last time you listened to someone with full concentration for a whole 30 minutes without getting distracted by random thoughts or maybe, by a notification on your phone?

Lack of Enthusiasm

How long do you remain excited about something? Like something you need to achieve. How long can you pursue it? When do you stop? Can you be easily stopped? If this makes you realize that you have failed at many things then you surely have a lack of enthusiasm. Some people blame it at their age. They say things like “I am too old for this sh*t” or “those days are gone”. You can blame anything for everything. Starting from bad childhood memories to trouble at work, we always have someone to blame. Think about it. When was the last time you have done something successfully and achieved something? How did you do it? You pawned everything that came in your way like lack of time,social life, etc.  You might say you don’t remember. But it’s because you never cared about these things over your goal.

You want to go to gym or for a run, but you don’t. You want to do something amazing for yourself when you get back from work, but you can’t. Opinions and guides on the internet are mostly mediocre. Even this article is mediocre. Not everything works for everyone. Internet has a fixed opinion about everything. A same story for a lot of people. Like the internet says, Justin Bieber sucks, does he really suck? Maybe he does, but did you form this opinion on your own? Or have you joined the league of believers to blend in? Everyone is different on the internet. People have amazing lives according to the internet but, in reality, everything is different. When you have an amazing life, you live it, rather than posting about it on the internet. The internet tells you 4 things that make you limited and make you settle before you reach the threshold of change.

1- There will always be people who think you are uncool and you suck at whatever you do.
2- There will always be someone who has already done what you are going to do and he/she is better than you.
3- People believe you are out of trend and they will hate you.

Steve Jobs said “People don’t know what they want unless you show them”. This is why you need to get your head out of the internet and see people in real. Yes people have also become Zombies. They can be yours forever if you show them the greatness in them and the life around them.

Connecting With People Mentally And The Law Of Attraction

Are you inspired by Sherlock Holmes? Or Dr. House’s ability to predict people and manipulate situations? There is a pseudo-science called the law of attraction. It states that everything in the universe attracts each other. That means the life around us is what we believe in. A lot of people think that all these laws and rules are a scam and are just marketing strategies to sell books. I agree with them except one thing : You are the product of your own beliefs. When you are born, you are almost like any other new born. You grow up and grow habits that make you different than others. It’s not just your habits that make you, but also what you believe in. Internet plays a major role in creating stereotypes. It tells us what to do and what to believe in.

Sedentary Life’s sickness

Do you know how much you need to work out in a week in order to live healthy? According to the American Heart Association, you need to do:

– At least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity at least 5 days per week for a total of 150

– At least 25 minutes of vigorous aerobic activity at least 3 days per week for a total of 75; or a combination of the two


– Moderate to high intensity muscle-strengthening activity at least 2 or more days per week for additional health benefits.

If this doesn’t make sense to you: Let’s assume that the vigorous aerobic activity is running, and one should run for at least 25 minutes at least 3 days a week. And if we assume the moderate to high intensity muscle-strengthening activity is yoga, that makes you go “ouch”, then you have to do it at least two or more days a week.

So how much exercise are you doing? You think walking down the stairs every day is considered exercise?

OK, you may be happy to be a couch potato and it might be “the life you love”, but listen, you need to know about something called Sedentary Life’s sickness. According to Wikipedia:

A sedentary lifestyle and lack of physical activity can contribute to or be a risk factor for:

  • Anxiety
  • Cardiovascular disease (heart diseases)
  • Mortality in elderly men by 30% and double the risk in elderly women (You can die young!)
  • Deep vein thrombosis
  • Depression (Wondering why you aren’t happy?)
  • Diabetes (Would you like to stop eating sugar?)
  • Colon cancer
  • High blood pressure
  • Obesity (You don’t say)
  • Osteoporosis
  • Lipid disorders
  • Kidney stones

Now if you’re serious, you are going to read up about all of these. It should scare the shit out of you.

Reality Check

We don’t know how quickly time passes. Do we even have time for ourselves? We have too much to worry about. There are hundreds of things to be taken care of.  Most of these things are connected and reachable via the internet. When was the last time you handled a difficult real life situation completely on your own and did well?

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When some event has passed, do you later realize that if you would have done something differently, things would have been better? If some of this is true for you then you should realize that your mind is stuck in a different reality and it refuses to take part in real life situations. Since your virtual world is so ideal, you don’t want to leave it.

Do You Love Yourself?

Elif Shafak writes in her book “The forty rules of love“.

“If you want to change the way others treat you, you should first change the way you treat yourself. Unless you learn to fully love yourself, fully and sincerely, there is no way you can be loved. Once you achieve that stage, however be thankful for every thorn that others might throw at you. It is a sign that you will soon be showered in roses.”

Most of us have someone in our lives that we love the most. This might be a parent, a role model or a spouse. What about the person that has been living inside you? Internet helps us build stereotypes. It can make you make a person that you never really were. Nobody can trust the internet but everybody wants to believe it. The information overload can make you hate yourself. You try to ignore your inner-self  – one must realize that this is the most important person you need to know. You need to love yourself first before you can start loving other things.

Cover image by Guanlong

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